Updated: May 17
“If you aim for nothing, you will hit it every time” -Source unknown
Welcome back to Action-Ables.
When it comes to pursuing goals, the obvious first step is to figure out what goals you want to achieve. This is where you’ll need to do your goal setting exercise. Download our free goal setting worksheet at https://goalsettingworksheet.upitaway.com/
In this episode, let’s go beyond doing a goal setting exercise. I want you to talk to you about defining your goals.
At the onset, I’d like to point out the one fact you should remember while defining your goals is, the biggest challenge you’ll face isn’t external but the ones you’ll battle with internally.
I always tell my clients two things. I can give you the exact techniques you need to implement to get results and the second, you’ll only be able to implement those techniques if you’re ready to do the work.
So when it comes to defining your goals. The best technique will be useless, if you aren’t ready to do the work!
Defining your goals can be challenging. Because thinking about your goals is easy. It doesn’t require any work on your behalf. You have a million thoughts in a day, what is couple of minutes just thinking about that thing you’ve always wanted to do, right?
Defining your goals, requires work, it demands your time and attention. It’s ironic that the time you spend defining your goals will be worth any other time commitment, most people won’t put in the time!
The reason most people don’t define their goals is because it’s like looking into a mirror. You already know deep down some of the things you want to do. If you were to sit down, get serious and start defining what you want, it may make it real and then you may loose the comfort of your familiar current environment.
This fear of change can be overwhelming. As long as you’re only thinking about your goals in your mind, it seems harmless and your brain doesn’t view it as a threat. However, if you were to take pen to paper and start writing down your goals and start fleshing it out, your brain will view it as a threat as something unfamiliar, and it’ll jump in to protect you by giving you reasons why you shouldn’t be defining your goals.
Your brain is not meant to make you feel warm and fuzzy and happy. Its primary function to keep you safe both physically and emotionally. The way it emotionally tried to protect you is by giving you reasons why you shouldn’t pursue your goals
Once you understand this process of how your brain can keep you from taking action, it’s about getting your brain to get to work for you instead of against you.
So, why should you still define your goals? Because, it’ll help you get clarity.
“Mystification is simple; clarity is the hardest thing of all“
Think about that for a second, as human beings, one of the psychological pitfalls can be our need to obsess over sophistication. Our brains are wired to crave for information and anything seeming simple can be written off as not effective. This can keep you from even trying to make things simple and get clarity.
What makes defining goals even more difficult is, it doesn’t come naturally to us. Growing up, it wasn’t taught to us in our conventional education system.
Defining goals is skill that needs to be learnt. Just like walking, talking, swimming, cycling etc.. By learning to define your goals, you’ll be able to know exactly what actions you need to take in order for you to reach your goals.
By defining your goals, you remove any an almost all room for guesswork. You’ll know what you want and also what you need to do exactly to get results.
Here’s a technique you can use to start defining your goals.
Step 1. Complete your goal setting exercise
Step 2: Take one goal and answer the following questions
a. How will it make you feel when you achieve this goal? Use words that light up your heart and inspire you.
b. How difficult will be it to achieve this goal? Think about it, on a scale of 1-10, be honest about what it’ll take to achieve this goal.
C. Has this ever been achieved by another human being? If yes, it’s proven it can be done. And hint: almost all goals have been achieved before by someone, somewhere.
D. Write down all the things you already know about achieving this goal
E. What actions do you you need to take to achieve this goal?
F. Repeat this exercise, till you’re clear of what you need to do and then go ahead and do it!
So, that’s my time for today. If you liked this episode, don’t forget to like, share and subscribe to Action-Ables. I’ll be back next Thursday to help you with your goals.
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Till next week, remember, ‘What You Want Matters and It’s Up to You to Make It Happen’