On the path to self discovery and self improvement, it’s easy to lose sight of who you are and what your purpose is.
Often, you might try to be the person other people want you to be and do what makes others happy. While that’s a good thing to do, don’t forget that you are a unique individual with your own identity, strengths, skills, goals and dreams.
If you’re having trouble identifying as a strong, unique and able individual, here are some suggestions that can help you understand yourself better.
First, let’s look at some ways in which you can uncover what your true calling is.
Taking some ‘you’ time
It’s hard to concentrate on being yourself when you’re constantly in the presence of others. Whether it’s at work or at home, you can’t truly be yourself unless you’ve spent time alone with yourself.
There's a huge difference between being alone and being lonely. When you choose the former, it's a choice you make consciously. Take a short trip or a long vacation and see how you deal with yourself, by yourself. Interact with new and fresh faces and see how you deal with new people and new situations. Through this experience, you will, for sure, learn things about yourself that you never knew existed.
Doing new things
Does this idea sound insane? Well, it feels amazing when you go ahead and do new things. Sleep on the opposite side of the bed or wake up at 6 am to see the sunrise. Take a tennis lesson or eat an extra muffin!
Do new things that might scare you a little or might give you a challenge. It’s a great way to check your general determination and resilience.
Tracking your progress
Keep a written record or maintain a chart of your ‘before’ and ‘after’. With every new thing you do, with every new goal you accomplish, make sure you have something to compare yourself to.
It never hurts to keep a progress report; if anything it’s only going to help you further your efforts in personality development.
Now that we have some of these things in place, let’s move on to your key strengths and how to identify them to make you the best ‘you’.
Asking your loved ones
Have an open dialogue with those you are close to and think know and understand you well. Ask them what they think your strengths are and why.
The reason we’re asking you do this is because sometimes other people might see something or observe something that you might be oblivious to.
While you’re at it, ask them what they think your weak points are as well. Once you have these different opinions and suggestions, see what checks out and what you can work with.
Celebrating your uniqueness
Celebrate the fact that there’s literally no one else like you. You have a unique face, a unique personality and a unique style about yourself. Don’t compare yourself to others.
The only person you need to answer to and compare yourself to is you. Don’t let others define you or your behaviour.
Being open to change
A stubborn attitude will get you nowhere. While you’re trying to understand your core strengths, what you need is an open mind and the willingness to change things that might be hurting you – consciously or unconsciously.
There’s nothing wrong with a little A/B testing if it helps you get ahead and better your quality of life, work and existence.
Standing for something
Always stand by and safeguard things you feel strongly about. Whether it’s your work ethic, your morals or your principles – stand up for what you believe is right and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. If you can be this person even during the toughest of times, you’re way stronger than you think.
In your life, you’re going to fail as many times as you succeed. Instead of brooding about things that didn’t go well, use them as fuel to light the next fire of success. Motivate yourself through your failures and find strength in your weaknesses.
Questioning what moves you
During the course of your life, identify the things that make you tick. Some people thrive under pressure; some thrive on other people’s successes. Find your positive motivator and use it to your advantage.
Also, be wary of negative motivators such as fear or anger as these are unlikely to result in anything good.
Ultimately, the key to finding your strengths lies within you. In order to become a stronger and more resilient person, the first step that you need to take is to love yourself and accept yourself for everything that you are. It is only then that you will be on the true path to self-discovery and self-reliance.