Updated: Oct 17
You cannot reach your goals especially not during this pandemic,
You don’t have the skills, or the knowledge and you don’t have what it takes to reach your goals.
Also, who do you think you are to try to even pursue your goals?
Hang on this is not speaking, if these are the kind of thoughts you have then you’re sabotaging your chances of reaching your goals.
So obviously we want to change these thoughts and improve your chances of reaching your goals. You can do that by improving one thing in your life.
If you want to know what that is then you need to stay tuned!
Hello and welcome back to to Up It and the Action-Ables podcast. This is Paden. For those of you who are new here welcome. For those of you who are a returning viewer or listener thank you for tuning back in.
You know what’s interesting about goals? No matter what goal you want to achieve in your life, the way to achieving any goal is pretty much the same. Because in order to reach a particular goal, you need to become a certain way, so that you’re able to do certain things to reach that goal.
Let’s say you want to run a marathon, when it is safe to. You’ll need to train and work out both physically as well as emotionally. So, before you physically run that marathon you have to believe that you can. As obvious as this may sound, the reason why so many people are not able to achieve their goals is not because they don’t know how to. No no, they do.
The biggest reason why they are not able to is because they don’t believe that they can reach their goals. They may think they don’t deserve it or they are lacking in some way and they doubt themselves.
So when someone doesn’t believe that they can reach their goals, it is often associated with their self worth.
In this episode let’s discuss how your self worth impacts the goals you want to achieve and how to improve your self worth.
Did You Know
That there’s a subtle but important difference between your self-esteem and self-worth.
Self-esteem is the value you place on yourself. The good, bad, ugly based on external factors. Self-worth on the other hand is the value that you place on yourself without any filters.
Your self-esteem may go up and down depending on external validation. Such as your career, your finances, love from your partner etc.
Self-worth on the other hand knowing and acknowledging you are worthy, you’re enough and you don’t need anything external to make you fulfilled.
So the healthy way to pursue your goals is pursue them through the lens of self worth rather than self esteem. So let’s get deeper into this.
Let’s say you want to pursue a goal for yourself and you tie your entire happiness on the achievement on this goal. Your very existence depends on it. What you’re doing is you’re placing your self esteem on the line. Which is dangerous because in the event that you’re not able to reach this goal then you will end up feeling extremely disappointed and feeling a sense of hopelessness and un fulfilment.
However, if you pursue your goals through the lens of self-worth, this is how it would look.
If you were to choose to pursue those goals just because you want to pursue them. And yes something such as just because exists. Just because you’re excited to, just because you want to pursue a goal.
You would pursue your goals simply because you wanted to. Now, don’t get me wrong this doesn’t mean you’re less committed to reaching your goals, it just means you’re not tying your entire existence, your peace of mind, your happiness to the realisation of that goal.
Instead you’re exploring and pursuing your goals through the lens of your self worth, knowing fully well that in the unlikely event that you’re not able to reach this particular goal, the fact that you even started pursuing them, the fact that you acknowledged that you wanted to pursue this goal is good enough! Your sense of worthiness is not diminished by you not achieving that goal.
This simply means that you’re not going to get disillusioned and disappointed if you don’t achieve that goal. The fact that you pursued this goal even, the fact that you wanted to pursue this goal even means that you believe and acknowledge to yourself that you’re good enough, you are whole, you’re worthy, irrespective of the final realisation of that goal.
So once you decide to pursue your goals through the lens of self worth then you can learn to improve upon it and this is how you can do it.
The simplest way to improve your self worth is to improve your self confidence. Now there are two types of confidence.
One is the external confidence, we show up with it at work or where we need to do something externally. And it works for all practical purposes.
However if you truly want to improve your self confidence then you need to improve upon your inner self confidence. And the way to build upon your inner self confidence is by keeping your promises to yourself.
When you say you’re going to ahead and you actually go ahead and do it, you build upon your inner self confidence. So the most important thing you can do for yourself and even for your loved ones is to first start keeping your word to yourself.
And very honestly it’s much simpler to keep promises to our loved ones or to someone else but the person that we often forget to acknowledge is ourselves. So when we keep our promises to ourselves then we build upon our inner confidence and also we improve upon our self worth.
By keeping your word to yourself you acknowledge the divinity inside you and as far fetched as that may sound but from a spiritual stand point, each one of us has a divine, innate sense of consciousness and every time we listen to our inner voice, inner consciousness we are in integrity with ourselves, we build upon our self confidence, we increase our self worth and thereby increasing our chances to achieving our life goals.
However, if we choose not to listen to our inner voice, inner consciousness then what happens is we don’t build this self confidence muscle and our self worth tends to be much lower.
So to wrap up this episode, I hope that the next time you are pursuing your goals you will consider not putting your self esteem on the line and instead pursue your goals just because you want to pursue them. And to know and to fully acknowledge that you’re worthy, you’re good enough and the final realisation of your goals is simply an added bonus.
When we learn to dissociate our final achievement, our final realisation of our goals, then we make the process of pursuing goals so much more better and even simpler.
That’s the whole point of having goals.
Tell me in the comments below what you think, I’d love to know your thoughts.
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And like I say every week remember what you want matters and it’s really up to you to make it happen!
I’ll talk to you soon, stay healthy and take care, see ya!