Updated: Oct 17
How did you handle difficult situations before COVID happened?
Well, I used to go to my best friends house, or on a drive, or use to party, or just take a trip, basically just go out and meet other people and that helped.
But right we can’t do anything of that.
Well you can shout, scream, cry or even curse. But none of that is going to help.
So the question is what do you do when things get difficult? Like there should be a handbook for this right? you should be doing and what you shouldn’t be doing during a difficult situation, no don’t you think so?
Hello and welcome back to Up It and the Action-Ables podcast, my name is Paden, am a performance life coach.
Let’s talk about the One thing that you can do right now to navigate these difficult times. If you haven’t already subscribed be sure to hit that subscribe button right now for fresh weekly content that’ll help you move toward your life goals.
The way things are with the world right now with the COVID situation and other heartbreaking stuff that’s been happening all around the world, it feels like the world is in a turmoil right now. And as though it was not bad enough that the world is in such a shape, we each have our own personal difficulties to get through so how do you deal with your challenging situations, what do you do?
When it comes to difficult, messy situations, we maybe used to thinking about that the situation is not fair, the situation is not right, what should be, what could be according to us that we may not be focusing on what we should be and that is we don’t ask ourselves enough about what that situation is trying to teach us.
So the One thing that you can do about dealing with difficult situation is your ability to see what you can do in the situation. What I mean by that is it’s not about somebody else. In the current world scenario it’s not about the virus, it’s not about the government, it’s not about your spouse, your family or any body else it’s about you. You are the variable in any given situation.
But how do you practically do this? Well I’m glad you asked!
There are three ways that you can put this knowledge of checking and looking inward and saying what can I do about the situation into practice. 3 simple steps let’s do this.
Step no. 1 is Check how unique is the situation really. Like is it even unique?
Okay you’re not going to like what I’m going to tell you but here’s the cold, hard, brutal truth that the situation, the difficult situation that you’re finding yourself in right now isn’t unique. Someone somewhere has been in that exact same situation that you find yourself in currently. But how does this help you?
Well it checks your ego from making you fall into the trap of victim mentality. So instead of thinking that something it happening to you, life is unfair, and that person is unfair and this world is unfair enough of that drama and you know that the situation isn’t unique. Period. So what can you do about it?
Instead of thinking of yourself as a victim you start to think about what can you do to better handle the situation.
So that’s step no. 1.
Step no. 2, is being emotionally stronger
Being emotionally strong does not mean that you don’t feel hurt, angry, disappointed or that you need to put on a brave face. And it certainly does not mean that you become cold, mean hearted and closed off.
Instead being emotionally strong is all about being aware of your emotions. Because think about it unless and until you know and acknowledge to yourself what you’re feeling you will not be able to handle any situation appropriately.
So allow yourself, give yourself the freedom to experience the emotions. So if you’re angry, be angry, if you’re upset be upset, you want to cry, cry.
Being aware or your emotions is different from acting on them. You can sit with your emotions. You can say that you’re feeling a certain way and that is okay as long as you don’t take action on that negative emotion.
You can experience any emotion as long as you don’t act on them. So learn to discern for yourself what you’re feeling in any given moment and learn to use that to better express yourself. Remember emotions are there to help your express yourself much better and handle a situation accordingly.
And Step No. 3 is Seek or Accept
Now if there’s something that you feel that you can do to fix and improve the situation that you are in then go ahead and do that. But if you feel like there’s absolutely nothing that you can do to improve the situation then it takes tremendous strength of character and even grace to accept the situation for what is.
Without sounding religious and only from a spiritual standpoint, there’s something called as the Serenity prayer and this what it says “God grant me the serenity to accept the things that I can’t change, courage to change the things that I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
So in the end to wrap this episode, I hope you’ll remember that whatever situation you are in, you’ll take responsibly for your part and ask yourself what you can do to resolve, fix or improve a situation. By learning to handle difficult situations you become much stronger more aware, qualities that’ll definitely help you with achieving your goals in life.
So that’s my time. If you liked this episode, don’t forget to like and share with a friend and subscribe if you’ve haven’t done that already. I’ll be back next week.
Remember, what you want matters and it’s upto you to make it happen! Till next week, stay healthy, stay safe. I’ll talk to you soon, See ya!